Key Takeaways:
- Forget perfection. Building a business and a marriage takes radical honesty and resilience.
- You may want clearly defined roles to thrive, but that’s unrealistic. Marriage can’t be neatly put into an SOP.
- Boundaries? Sure, they’re ideal. Reality is messy.
- Respect each other. You’ll discover your strengths along the way, and sometimes they’ll overlap.
- You’re not failing because it’s hard. There’s always conflict. What matters is that you keep showing up and growing through it.
- Building a life together requires support, personally and professionally. You can’t do it alone.
Entrepreneurship tests everything you’re made of. It demands resilience, self-awareness, and the ability to keep going when things feel impossible. Add marriage and parenthood into that mix, and you’ve got the ultimate masterclass in growth.
People often look at me and John and think we’ve figured it out. The truth? We argue. We disagree. We question each other’s decisions. There are days when one of us is drained, the other is frustrated, and the business feels bigger than both of us. That’s reality.
I’m not a relationship expert. I’m just someone who’s learned to build a business, a family, and a life with her partner through communication, reflection, and a lot of trial and error.
Reengineer the Rules
We don’t have clearly defined roles in business or marriage. It’s not traditional. It’s not cleanly divided. We had to reengineer how we work together, and it’s still evolving.
Sometimes he’s the visionary and I’m the operator. Sometimes it’s the other way around. We move based on what the business needs, what our family needs, and what we need as a couple.
It’s not about “staying in your lane.” It’s about learning when to lead, when to support, and when to let the other person take the wheel.
As I’ve said before, “I have a difficult time with trust. I question decision-making. There’s trauma there because of my background. My parents got divorced. They were in business together. But what’s wrong with admitting that? The truth is, trust is something we keep rebuilding through communication.”
That’s the work no one talks about… the daily rebuilding of trust, not pretending it’s always solid.
Let’s Be Honest, Boundaries Are Hard
Everyone loves to talk about boundaries. The truth is, ours are blurry.
I’ve absolutely walked into the bathroom while John’s in the shower and said, “Babe, we need to talk about this thing for tomorrow.” And he’s like, “Can we not right now?”
That’s the reality of running a business with your partner. It bleeds into everything sometimes.
But we also have firm lines when it matters. By nine o’clock, we’re both asleep. We’re parents to a young girl who deserves our energy and attention.
I do my best as a working mother to stay consistent with training, leading, and parenting, but that doesn’t mean I get it right every single day or check all the boxes with perfection. That just doesn’t exist.
We don’t work 24/7. Supra Human isn’t about constant hustle. It’s about being intentional with your time, your energy, and your relationships.
The Power of a Support System
Behind every strong couple and business is a support system.
As we’ve grown, I’ve learned the importance of building one intentionally. That includes people and systems that help us protect our time, energy, and mental health. From childcare to home management to an executive team that operates with precision. It’s all part of the infrastructure that allows us to thrive.
As I often tell other women, “It was really difficult, especially as a female, to delegate some of the roles that were deeply ingrained in me… what society sells us a woman needs to be, from cleaning to cooking. But I can’t build this business and show up in my marriage and as a mother if I’m not getting the support I need. I believe in investing in those areas to make me a better version of myself.”
That investment isn’t always visible, but it’s necessary. The emotional capacity to lead and love well doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from being well supported.
Everyone can create some version of that, even if it’s small. It’s about asking for help, delegating where you can, and recognizing that success is not a solo sport.
We Don’t Always Get It Right
There are weeks when we don’t make each other the priority we should.
And there are so many relationship experts out there saying you need to schedule weekly date nights and quarterly getaways. Sure, that sounds nice. But it’s not always realistic.
In an ideal world, we’d have perfectly planned date nights on the calendar. In real life, we’re flexible. The key is communication. We do our best to squeeze in time and connect in the small moments. It’s not always carved out in a neatly packaged calendar invite. We’re not that type of couple, and that’s okay.
On my side, I’m just doing my best to show up as my best version. The truth is, there have been times I’ve cried, screamed, and felt all the emotions, depending on where I’m at in my cycle. It’s important to recognize the patterns, to understand them, and to keep working through them.
No matter how much you train, meditate, or work on yourself, friction and challenges will still show up. What matters is that you keep learning how to understand each other better.
Enjoy the Journey (Even When It’s Chaotic)
We’ve been together 14 years, married for 11. The difference is, we’re just committed.
Running a business with your partner isn’t easy. It exposes every flaw and magnifies every insecurity. But it also creates something beautiful… a shared sense of purpose. A partnership forged through pressure. Wins that mean more because you earned them together.
We’re not perfect. We don’t have it all figured out. Nobody does.
But we’re here, building something meaningful, raising a family, learning, growing, and doing it side by side.
That’s what makes it work.
The Pursuit Never Stops,
